Author Archive for Jill Silverman, LCSW

Depression Therapy

Sunday, November 6th, 2011

Anxiety and Depression

Have you not felt yourself lately? Everyone has “down” days, but persistent sadness, hopelessness and anxiety can negatively interfere with all areas of life. Clinical symptoms of depression may include persistent feelings of guilt, a loss of interest in enjoyable activities, changes in sleeping and eating patterns, irritability, difficulty concentrating, problems with motivation, feeling disengaged with others, and for some people, suicidal thoughts or feelings. It is known that the highest functioning individuals often seek out therapy to talk through emotional issues affecting their well-being.

Therapy can help normalize significant life stressors and help in overcoming distorted thinking patterns that contribute to depressed feelings. It can also help one to start feeling hopeful about the future, become more decisive and assertive, and increase feelings of self-acceptance and self worth. Having someone to talk to, maintaining healthy eating and sleeping routines, increasing physical activity, and for some people, the additional help of medications, can assist in overcoming depression and anxiety.

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Categories : Therapy Specialties

Anxiety and Stress Management

Sunday, November 6th, 2011

Stressed by Obligations and Responsibilities?

Do you find yourself often anxious and stressed? Life circumstances that often cause stress include managing finances, balancing family and work life, conflict in relationships, death of a loved one, career difficulties, loss of a home, and problems with health. It is normal to experience stressful situations in life. Anxiety and Stress Management Therapy can help people learn techniques to assist in reducing stress and also identify destructive thinking patterns that contribute to stress. Therapy often aims to help to promote self-care routines which may include prioritizing responsibilities, taking a realistic view of which obligations are manageable, and saying “no” more often. Simply having someone to talk to in which you feel heard and understood can reduce feelings of ongoing stress.

Anxiety symptoms can be disruptive and interfere with daily life when there are significant and persistent fears and worries that one does not feel quite able to control. Often people experience panic attacks, which can range from mild to severely debilitating. Panic attacks are a real, physical experience and the body may experience physical changes such as rapid heart beat, feelings of not being able to breathe, and tingling sensations in the arms or fingers. Often, the fear of having a panic attack can trigger more panic attacks. Anxiety and Stress Management Therapy can help one identify the thought patterns that contribute to panic attacks, and some people find that they benefit from assistance from medications prescribed by an MD.

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How to Manage Stress

Wednesday, October 26th, 2011

Do you find yourself more stressed out than you think you ought to be? Are you feeling increasingly higher amounts of pressure, and do you think it’s getting harder to manage it all? Does even reading this cause some tension? Everyone faces stress at one time or another for over a short period, or in some cases, over a continued time frame.

Understanding Stress

Short-term stress is a natural (and vital) part of our bodies’ ability to function. Imagine our bodies as cars cruising along at a nice steady rate. Every once in a while we need to go faster to pass an obstacle. Stress is putting the foot on the accelerator to pass our problem. We might even go over the speed limit a little, but it’s needed to keep us moving. Once we’ve passed our obstacle, we go back to cruising comfortably.

But chronic stress is bad news. Aside from the constant mental exhaustion and negative moods, it’s also linked to a variety of health problems that amplify stress. Chronic stress depresses your body’s immune system, weakens your hippocampus (the part of your brain where memories are stored), and can create worse problems. Not treating chronic stress is like speeding too much: you can manage for a little while, but the longer you let it go, eventually more significant problems are going to happen that will slow you down even more.

Quick Stress Relief

So what’s to be done about it? While plenty of effective treatments are available, here are a few techniques you can use right now:

-Get more sleep. Even if it means sacrificing a TV show. You may not even remember what it’s like to get enough sleep in a night, but if you start to, you’ll feel better. If this not possible, then:

-Start saying no. When friends or family ask you for favors, to volunteer for work, or even to social functions. Everyone needs some amount of personal time to decompress, even if it’s just to read the newspaper. Your friends and family will still love you, even if you decline every once in a while. If you still have too much on your plate, you can:

-Start delegating. Chances are you have a few people you know who could help you out with at least some of your responsibilities, even if just temporarily. Remember, you’re only responsible for getting things done—not doing them all by yourself.

Sometimes you might need a more individually tailored approach that involves more sophisticated treatment methods. If you’d like to find out more, for a free telephone consultation call me at (858) 793-2400. Consulting a therapist can help you prioritize effectively, uproot the hidden causes of your stress, and get you back to your comfortable speed.

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Categories : Stress and Anxiety

Can Children Get Depression?

Wednesday, October 26th, 2011

Yes. Children often have typical “down” days, but when sadness and hopelessness are interfering with activities, school, relationships, and family life, it is often a sign of depression.

Signs of Depression in Children

One of the most significant signs of depression in children is persistent irritability. Other symptoms of depression in children are similar to depression in adults. You may recognize significant changes in mood and a loss of interest in enjoyable activities. There may be changes in sleeping and eating patterns, isolative behaviors, increased tearfulness, difficulty concentrating, problems with motivation, and feeling disengaged with others. Read More→

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Categories : Child Therapy

How to Strengthen a Good Relationship

Saturday, October 16th, 2010

Sometimes it is difficult to tell someone what you are really thinking. You may worry about a negative reaction or starting an argument.  You may even decide that there is no good time to bring it up at all.

Getting Your Partner To Listen

Most of us have had the experience of being upset and communicating in a way that makes the other feel attacked. When this happens, a person’s natural reaction is to become defensive. Sometimes the other will even attack back. All the other person can hear is that he or she is to blame. What you have intended to communicate is not heard or understood.  You don’t get the response you want.

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Categories : Couples Therapy