Sometimes it is difficult to tell someone what you are really thinking. You may worry about a negative reaction or starting an argument. You may even decide that there is no good time to bring it up at all.
Getting Your Partner To Listen
Most of us have had the experience of being upset and communicating in a way that makes the other feel attacked. When this happens, a person’s natural reaction is to become defensive. Sometimes the other will even attack back. All the other person can hear is that he or she is to blame. What you have intended to communicate is not heard or understood. You don’t get the response you want.