Is Your Relationship Causing You Great Pain?
Are you having difficulties in your relationship with communication? Have you felt disconnected from one another? Therapy can help to resolve relationship conflicts, resentment, and create new patterns of communication. Whether it is personal counseling or couples counseling, clients often find themselves at a point where they decide to speak to a third party to help them sort out issues that have grown over time and are now interfering with the emotional satisfaction of the relationship.
Couples counseling can minimize the stress and anxiety of miscommunication. It is a place where time is set aside to talk without interruption so that a real understanding of one another can take place and each party is able to feel heard and understood.
When couples begin therapy for communication issues, many that they are able to talk about things they were never able to express. Others find they develop a new comfort level with communication and have less concern that a disagreement will turn into a hostile argument. Couples often get used to new ways of relating that they are able to continue on their own.
Once the couple has a plan of moving forward with counseling, they often notice a sense of relief that begins to set in around ongoing disagreements, even before meeting in person. There now is a shared agreement on something – that it will be a team effort to address communication in the relationship. This alone can begin to bring the couple closer than they have recently been, and I am always amazed to see the eagerness to talk about things that have been buried where past attempts to resolve them have been unsuccessful. With uninterrupted time set aside to communicate, both parties often bring up issues they may have not even realized bothered them. Couple’s counseling always strengthens a great relationship and can allow for a deeper connection than if nothing had been addressed.
“Deep listening is the kind of listening that can help relieve the suffering of another person… You can call it compassionate listening. You listen with only one purpose: to help him or her to empty their heart.”Thich Nhat Hanh, Vietnamese Buddhist Monk, Teacher, Author, Peace Activist