Is Your Relationship
Causing you Pain?

Are you having difficulties communicating in your relationship? Have you struggled in your marriage for a while?  I am an expert in helping my clients communicate and resolve issues so you can get back to healthier living. I want to help you.

Couples therapy gives you the time to set aside and talk without interruption.  Part of the success is often due to discussing issues you have never talked about before. As you develop a new comfort level with communication, there is less of a chance that a disagreement will turn into a hostile argument. The goal of therapy is to resolve issues, understand where your partner is coming from, and develop skills to communicate clearly on your own.

Some of the most common reasons why people seek out therapy:

  • Never talking out disagreements
  • Physical and emotional intimacy problems
  • Having the same conflicts over and over

My Approach

I have a unique approach to couples therapy in which I meet with each person individually for the first two sessions and then together for the third session and thereafter. Clients generally find this approach helpful as it allows them to talk freely about what is on their mind and the key issues they want to address. This way I am able to gain enough information about each person’s perspective to thoroughly understand where they are coming from. From there I can more effectively direct the discussion to the most important issues at hand. People are often relieved to hear that they can begin couples therapy this way. I will meet with each person alone again if necessary, but many find just that first session alone gives them the time and space to be able to think about and clearly communicate their own point of view.

What Might You Expect from Couples Counseling?

The counseling session is a place where time is set aside to talk without interruption so that a real understanding of one another can take place. It is a new chance to talk about things that have been buried where past attempts to resolve them have been unsuccessful.

It is common to bring up issues you may have not even realized bothered you before. Interestingly enough, these issues are often at the root of the problem. Both of you get better at listening, so there is an ability of each session to yield new clarity and insights for you both.

How Can Couples Counseling Help?

Once the couple has a plan of moving forward with counseling, there is often a great sense of relief that begins to set in. They finally can talk about things they have needed to express and resolve them. By doing this they increase their respect for and connection with each other. With a new comfort level in their relationship, they gain the communication tools to move forward on their own.

When you have shown your capacity for listening
and understanding, the other person will begin to listen to you.
Then you will have a chance to talk about your pain,
and it’s your turn to be healed.Thich Nhat Hanh, Vietnamese Buddhist Monk, Teacher, Author, Peace Activist

San Diego Therapist, Jill Silverman

I want to help you have more joy, love, and fulfillment in your relationship.
I can help you.

Integrative Therapist
With Over
20 Years of Experience