Is Your RelationshipCausing You Pain?
If you are struggling with difficult emotions related to issues with your partner, I want to help you. The decision to break up or get a divorce can be a very personal and painful issue. The distress it can cause is often beyond overwhelming. No matter how difficult the relationship, both parties likely feel a sense of loss, pain, guilt, or failure. A common belief that people often express to me is “I have failed.”
Relationship breakups and divorce are often confusing and complex. Going separate ways is hard if you have been broken up with and also hard if you are the one who has initiated it. Maybe your significant other is the only one who ever made you feel special and loved. Perhaps you gave everything to this person but ended up betrayed, rejected, or abandoned. If you are the one doing the breaking up, maybe there is guilt that the other won’t be able to manage alone are worried about the aftermath after it.
The struggle often brings up many issues of uncertainty about the future. The anxiety over financial hardship. The disappointment over the loss of friends within your social circle. The pain of losing family members who were close to you. If you have children, the angst of how to tell them and the worry of how they will cope. The stress of realizing you will have less time in their lives and the worry of how you will live with that. The distress over co-parenting and what that will look like. The guilt about breaking up the family. Ongoing resentment. The shame of feeling judged and misunderstood. These are just some of the reasons
The decision to separate, break up completely, and the process of divorce in itself can be so traumatic. No matter how amicably it goes, you may feel isolated and have feelings of loneliness, depression, and anxiety. I can help you navigate and cope with your decision as well as work through the devastation, grief, and other difficult feelings.
If you are going through a breakup or a divorce, let me help you navigate through the process. It helps to talk to someone privately who is objective and can validate and normalize what you are going through.