Navigating Divorce and Relationship Breakups in San Diego
Are you facing the pain of divorce? As a San Diego therapist with over 20 years of experience specializing in divorce recovery, I understand the unique challenges you’re going through. Whether you’re struggling with feelings of loss, guilt, or uncertainty about the future, I can provide you with the support and guidance you need.
The Emotional Impact of Divorce
If you are struggling with difficult emotions related to issues with your partner, I want to help you. The decision to break up or get a divorce can be incredibly personal and painful. It often brings a sense of overwhelming distress. No matter how difficult the relationship, both parties likely feel a sense of loss, pain, guilt, or failure. Many of my clients express feeling like they have failed in some way.
Sources of Pain and Uncertainty
Relationship breakups and divorces are often confusing and complex. It’s hard to be the one who was broken up with, and it’s also difficult to be the one who initiated the separation. Common struggles include:
- Feeling unloved: Maybe your significant other is the only one who ever made you feel special and loved. Perhaps you gave everything to this person but ended up betrayed, rejected, or abandoned.
- Guilt and worry: If you are the one doing the breaking up, maybe there is guilt that the other won’t be able to manage alone and you’re worried about the aftermath.
The struggle often brings up many issues of uncertainty about the future:
- Financial hardship: Worrying about money is common.
- Loss of social support: There’s likely disappointment over the loss of friends within your social circle, along with pain from losing close family members.
- Impact on children: If you have children, there’s the angst of how to tell them, how they will cope, and the ongoing stress of shared custody.
- Guilt about breaking up the family: You might struggle with ongoing resentment and the shame of feeling judged by friends, family, or the community.
The Trauma of Separation
The decision to separate, break-up completely, and the legal process of divorce itself can be traumatic. Even if it’s amicable, you may feel isolated and have feelings of loneliness, depression and anxiety.
Let’s Work Through This Together
If you are going through a breakup or a divorce, let me help you navigate and cope with your decision as well as work through the devastation, grief, and other difficult feelings. It helps to talk to someone privately who is objective and can validate and normalize what you are going through. I utilize evidence-based approaches to help you navigate the emotional challenges of divorce. As a counselor who has worked with divorce and relationship breakups for over 20 years, I can help you:
- Process your emotions: Work through feelings of grief, loss, anger, and guilt.
- Develop coping mechanisms: Learn healthy ways to manage stress and anxiety.
- Build a positive future: Rediscover your identity and create a fulfilling life after divorce.
Contact me today for a free consultation and let’s work together to find healing and build a brighter future.
